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On the day of my graduation, one of the speaker had speech that it is extremely important to have community. It means to join good professional association(s). I remember it very well, although until now I still haven’t found the right association yet. There are a few associations on social research or development or similar to those. However, they were overseas. Many interesting associations are even not only based on interest but also restricted in specified geographic areas.

I would not be mind to join one or two of those. But, I am currently seeking for more “local” ones. Either in the regional or the country. It is because I would like to extend my network! To learn from others’ experiences, to hear and share, to associate one another. I still highly value the real discussion although I am grateful with the online ones. I like to put a face on a name! (more…)

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This time, I want to talk about how great GOD is.
The last week, I felt like being hit by a world champion boxer.  Hmph, it might not the best illustration. As after any boxer has been hit by the opponent, he/she will get unconscious. So he/she might feel numb. Meanwhile, I was not feel that way.
I was angry and feel that I’ve got discriminated. I felt miserable and almost get depressed. There were a lot of emotions that I have. At the end, those make me feel so tiny and worthless. In fact, I should use the words ‘I feel’ instead of ‘I felt’ as whenever I remember the incident, I still feel the same way only with different level. Even now.
However, I will not share the incident but will focus on the positive impacts. Well, to bear in mind the positive points is much more important to build up the motivation. In brief, the incident is about how I be treated improperly. That I felt like being discriminated. To illustrate the pain, this incident does not only make me cried or angry. It has impacted on my self-image and self-esteem. It does make me depressed. The depression has outweighed the anger.
Further, with no intention to sensationalized, I even can feel how broken my heart is. Yet, the incident was far from one’s love life. For those who learn and/or understand about psychology, I did practice the avoidance coping. I really wanted to put those things as far as I could. I really wanted to go away to other continents, to not face the incident-related-future. I really did!
I was totally notice, how hard I had to push myself, my fingers to be on the keyboard. To type. And so was the brain. I had to dictate the brain to keep on working. To be sensible. To be sane. This helps me more than I need to know [in my opinion] how it feels to be pushed on doing things that you hate, but you don’t have other options.
Thus, I really learn that there are times when people do not really have the options. Previously, I do understand about this. That life is unfair. I do understand that disadvantaged situations might not always due to the people’s faults or even laziness. But, previously, that kind of understanding was only based on my empathy and knowledge on social issues.
But now, I do more understand and have more empathy with this kind of situation. But, I wouldn’t push people too much to be persistent with what they have started but don’t like. Though I still believe that we should be responsible on what we have started, with our decisions. But I have more tolerance on those who have to put aside things that they don’t like even they have to break their promise. Yet, I am not talking about marriage.
Meantime, as I pushed myself to concentrate and be rational instead of emotional, I put rationalism as the way of coping. In fact, I use this frequently. I rationalize that I couldn’t give up as it will fulfill what the opponent wants. I couldn’t give up as I receive many supports and couldn’t fail those people who put their hopes on me. However, it is not enough. Yes, rationalism is not enough. It brings me to have doubt on myself. As I said previously, it has impacted on my self esteem. To those who know me in person, it means that the incident is a totally horrible, as I am a hard-headed who rationalize almost everything. Therefore, I commit more on religious coping.
Well, I use it frequently too, but usually in the same proportion. I usually make a good balance between rationalism and religious copings to face the problems. This time, every rational points of thinking have failed me. I couldn’t think any rational reasons behind the incident except ‘everything happens for reason’ and it relates to GOD’s will. Nothing else. I couldn’t think other explanations. Usually, although I always hold that faith consistently, I am always able to see the bigger picture, to get a sense of explanation. This time, all I can think was only GOD knows why.
Yet, I have a sense what I should learn from this incident. As I always believe that ‘nothing is a coincidence’, I am being more sensitive on noticing motivational words. In fact, those are religious coincidences.
I played a playlist of religious songs in shuffled mode. Then, the list played the songs which related with what I need, surrender to GOD’s will. When I read the daily devotion, again, they state about GOD’s will. When I opened the Bible in random, the verses talk the same thing. All of those reminds me to have more faith on GOD’s will. That, HIS shall be done and not mine. No matter how difficult or hard they are, it has written in my life, the cross of mine.
These are some verses that ‘coincidentally’ reflect on what has happened to me. How those verses and devotional article strengthen me to keep on standing. However, I would not share all of them, but some which highly related to what I have experienced.
NIV’s [New International Version] devotion on Wednesday is titled ‘walking with GOD’. It states that:
‘this personal attitude toward GOD what we call devotion to GOD. But it is always devotion in action. It is not just a warm, emotional feeling about GOD, the kind of feeling we may get while singing some grand old hymn of praise or some-modern day chorus of worship…it is an attitude toward GOD.’
It is clearly related with my situation, and so does the previous three days’ devotions. I was in the midst of uncertainty, learned helplessness.
NIV’s devotion on Friday is title ‘fools for Christ’. It states that:
‘…Sacrifice is not giving up things, but giving to God with joy the best we have…means the surrendering of the miserable sense of my own unimportance…–not, do you know what GOD is going to do? You cannot know, but you have faith in HIM and therefore HE can do what HE likes.’
It reminds me to learn to that the glory has to be His instead of mine. That I, as HIS creature, should surrender by HIS will. That being considered as a fool by others might has different intention, according to HIS.
Amongst those NIV’s devotions, the weekend is being the most encouraging for me.
‘To wait on GOD is to struggle and sometimes to fail. Sometimes the failures teach us more than the successes. For the failures teach us that to wait on GOD is not only to wait for his mercy, but to wait by his mercy…The glory hidden in our failures is the discovery that the very thing we wait for is what we wait by! The success of our waiting lies not in who we are, but in who GOD is. It is not our strength that will pull us through to the end, it is God’s amazing grace and mercy.’
I cried [again] when I read this. All that I can do with the incident is just wait. There is nothing that I can do, except to try my best and put the rest on HIM. However, I usually put my will above HIS. I realized that I have to learn more about surrendering. And in fact, that is all that I can do. To surrender.
When I randomly open the Bible with a deep breath… God really ‘talks’ to me. Amongst those verses, I opened the pages which contain Psalm 91 to Psalm 94. Psalm 91 talks about under the GOD’s protection. Psalm 92 talks about GOD, the righteousness judge. Psalm 93 talks about GOD, the eternal king. And Psalm 94 talks about GOD, the righteousness fortress. These all have boosted my emotion. Those really comforted. As far as I remember, the first chapter that I saw is Psalm 94. With a deep breath, I read it through.
‘He is my refuge and my fortress, my GOD, in whom I trust.’ [Psalm 91:2]
‘The Lod is upright; he is my Rock, and there is no wickedness in him.’ [Psalm 92:15]
‘He will repay them for their sins and destroy them for their wickedness; the Lod our GOD will destroy them.’ [Psalm 94:23]
And yesterday, I did that again. To open the Bible in random. Guess what I was leading me into? It was the page of Psalm 64 and Psalm 65. I read the Psalm 64 as somehow I sensed that way.
‘Hear me, O God, as I voice my complaint; protect my life from the threat of the enemy. Hide me from the conspiracy of the wicked, from that noisy crowd of evildoers. ’ [Psalm 64:1-2].
Not to mention the websites that I read on those days. One of it is titled ‘Learning humility: Not every flower can be a rose’. The author reminds us that each of us has our own roles. To be
A heart that is humble rests confidently in His mercy and love, and has no fear of being little or unnoticed, nor any need for adulation. He may be walking with the red rose in His hand, smelling its sweet fragrance, but He will also lie down on the grass that is covered in a bed of small wildflowers, and He will rest His head on their simple beauty, enjoying their soft comfort. I can think of nothing sweeter than to be that wild flower that’s pressed close to His heart as He lies down to rest. That is all my soul really longs for.
And yesterday, I read a daily devotion which said that ‘God often digs wells of joy with the spade of sorrow’. I think those proofs are more than enough to share. As believe it or not, the words are keep on coming. Not only from the Bible, website or other articles; but also through friends. They unpredictably said things that beyond expectation. They have pointed things that highly related although they don’t have knowledge on what had happened to me in details. Well, that’s amazing.
So, at the end, one conclusion that I have is put your life under GOD’s will is too d**n difficult. Yet, HIS understanding is beyond what we could imagine. Just hold the faith, keep it without doubt.

Last week, I felt like being hit by a world champion boxer. Hmph, it might not the best illustration. As after any boxer has been hit by the opponent, he/she will get unconscious. So he/she might feel numb. Meanwhile, I was not feel that way.

I was angry and feel that I’ve got discriminated. I felt miserable and almost get depressed. There were a lot of emotions. At the end, those make me feel so tiny and worthless. In fact, I should use the words ‘I feel’ instead of ‘I felt’ as whenever I remember the incident, I still feel the same way only with different level. Even now.

In brief, the incident is about how I be treated improperly. That I felt like being discriminated. To illustrate the pain, this incident does not only make me cried or angry. It has impacted on my self-image and self-esteem. It does make me depressed. The depression has outweighed the anger. However, I will not share the incident but will focus on what I’ve learned. Well, I’ve learned some things, but these are some of them. And to bear in mind the positive points is much more important to build up the motivation.

Further, with no intention to sensationalized, I even can feel how broken my heart is. Yet, the incident was far from one’s love life. For those who learn and/or understand about psychology, I did practice the avoidance coping. I really wanted to put those things as far as I could. I really wanted to go away to other continents, to not face the incident-related-future. I really did [and still do]!

I was totally notice, how hard I had to push myself, my fingers to be on the keyboard. To type. And so was the brain. I had to dictate the brain to keep on working. To be sensible. To be sane. This helps me more than I need to know [in my opinion] how it feels to be pushed on doing things that you hate, but you don’t have other options.

Thus, I really learn that there are times when people do not really have the options. Previously, I do understand about this. That life is unfair. I do understand that disadvantaged situations might not always due to the people’s faults or even laziness. But, previously, that kind of understanding was only based on my empathy and knowledge on social issues.

But now, I do more understand and have more empathy with this kind of situation. But, I wouldn’t push people too much to be persistent with what they have started but don’t like. Though I still believe that we should be responsible on what we have started, with our decisions. But I have more tolerance on those who have to put aside things that they don’t like even they have to break their promise. Yet, I am not talking about marriage.

Meantime, as I pushed myself to concentrate and be rational instead of emotional, I put rationalism as the way of coping. In fact, I use this frequently. I rationalize that I couldn’t give up as it will fulfill what the opponent wants. I couldn’t give up as I receive many supports and couldn’t fail those people who put their hopes on me. However, it is not enough. Yes, rationalism is not enough. It brings me to have doubt on myself. As I said previously, it has impacted on my self esteem. To those who know me in person, it means that the incident is a totally horrible, as I am a hard-headed who rationalize almost everything. Therefore, I commit more on religious coping.

Well, I use it frequently too, but usually in the same proportion. I usually make a good balance between rationalism and religious copings to face the problems. This time, every rational points of thinking have failed me. I couldn’t think any rational reasons behind the incident except ‘everything happens for reason’ and it relates to GOD’s will. Nothing else. I couldn’t think other explanations. Usually, although I always hold that faith consistently, I am always able to see the bigger picture, to get a sense of explanation. This time, all I can think was only GOD knows why.

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Dalam satu bulan terakhir ini topik mengenai betapa masokis-nya orang-orang seperti saya muncul kembali. Konteks masokis disini adalah intelektual masokis. Apakah itu? Selengkapnya dapat dibaca di tulisan saya sebelumnya “intellectual-masochist”.

Sekilas kisahnya adalah, saya merasa telah menyusahkan diri sendiri. Menempuh pendidikan tingkat tinggi bukanlah suatu kewajiban bagi saya. Tidak pernah ada suatu kejadian yang mencetuskan bahwa S2 adalah wajib hukumnya. Tidak seperti beberapa rekan yang memang harus menempuh jalur tersebut demi karier di masa depan. Sementara, beberapa rekan, termasuk saya, jenjang S2 benar-benar suatu pilihan pribadi.

Mereka yang memilih dengan penuh kesadaran dan kebebasan ini bahkan mengambil risiko. Hal ini terkait dengan status pekerjaan. Saya misalnya. Pilihan ini diambil tanpa ada sponsor perusahaan atau organisasi apapun, kecuali tentunya penyandang dana. Di satu sisi, adalah hal yang menyenangkan karena tidak terikat kontrak dengan pihak mana pun. Bebas untuk memilih dan menentukan “jalan”. Namun di sisi lain, ketika persaingan untuk berkarya semakin padat, maka hal ini menjadi titik lemah. Menjelang akhir “perjuangan”, kecemasan ini semakin terasa seiring dengan pertanyaan-pertanyaan yang muncul.

Pertanyaan, apa rencana setelah lulus atau mau bekerja dimana setelah lulus semakin gencar ditanyakan. Dan pertanyaan serupa tapi tak sama itu dijawab dengan jawaban yang sejenis pula. Kisarannya tidak akan jauh dari “lihat nanti”, “tergantung siapa yang mau menampung” hingga “tau nih, pusing juga”. Jawaban tersebut akan diakhiri dengan pernyataan serupa: “jangan lupa informasinya ya”. Tidak ada kejelasan kemana hidup ini akan mengalir setelah fase pendidikan ini berakhir.

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Lately, I’ve got information about my mother-tongue language: Bahasa Indonesia. Several weeks ago, I attended a free lunch that arranged by language exchange program in my university. In that occasion, I met Paul Thomas, a linguist. This semester he teaches some units about Bahasa Indonesia including the contemporary movies. He speaks many languages and as always, I envy him for this. Yes, I always envy people who can speak many languages fluently, including local languages. At least, I know that he speaks Italian and French, except English and Bahasa. And he is currently learning Dutch as he has a linguistic research about Australian language and a lot of the sources were written in Dutch.

He argued that Indonesian do not have sense of urgency to learn their own cultures, including Bahasa [notes: don’t you ever dare to think that he discriminates Indonesian]. He said that Chinese students in this university have high willingness to enroll in the units of Chinese language or culture as elective. But not for Indonesian students. There were a lot of Indonesian in this university as Indonesia was the third biggest source countries, after Malaysian and Chinese in this university. I argued that it might because of the socio-economic status of Indonesian people. I said that, language and culture studies were not considered as prospectus subjects. A lot of parents might not support their children whenever theirs want to pursue these areas. Even for social studies. There are people who still consider social studies as nonsense. That science is much more important and can give guarantee of prosperity. I talked about this in [social vs science].

Then, he argued further. It was not about financial condition or career plan. Chinese students did not take language and cultural studies as their majors. They took these units as electives. So, it means that they might share similar situation with what you argued. But, they took the electives. They know the language, they can speak and write in that language, they were native people. But they still took those units.

Indonesians get used to think that their language is easy. At this point, I smiled, as I am including the person who thinks this way. (more…)

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For almost a year, I keep on thinking about what am I doing.

Being an international postgraduate student is one of my dreams. I dream it for years. I tried quite many times, failed again and again. So, I do thankful with my status now. Not because of the “international” matter, but it is more about a fulfilled dream. Especially in the financial issue.

But then…
Life is not a fairy tale. Once you reached your dreams, you have to keep on struggling. There always be something after anything.

Like now…
On my first semester…
I had quite lot anxiousness. I am neither a great English speaker nor writer.
The subject that I am doing is not a popular one, means that it would be harder to find information about how to succeeded in this subject, to learn from the seniors.
And, all of my colleagues are English native speakers.
As an addition, I have different academic background than the basic of this subject, not too far but it is still different.

Jeez..

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